Dating and Sex - 3 Reasons Not To Have Sex On The First Date

Dating someone new can be exciting and fun or it can be something you will regret for the rest of your life. It is wonderful when you meet someone that you are attracted to right away. But give yourself some time before rushing into anything more serious. It is all up to you and what your expectations are when you go out with someone for the first time. Something that can ruin a perfectly good time between two people is the belief that you should have sex after the first date. Having sex so soon in a relationship can backfire in many ways. Here are the three biggest reasons not to have sex on the first date.

1. You will never truly get to know the person you have just met. By having sex with someone right away you change the dynamics of what the relationship could lead to in the future. When you begin to know someone by choosing to have a physical encounter, you shortchange the possibilities of knowing them intellectually or emotionally. You will know very little about who the person truly is, and they will know very little about you.
2. You will both feel terrible the next day. Our society leads us to believe that men are alright with the idea of a one night stand, but research shows that men generally feel just as bad about themselves the morning after a one night stand as a woman does. It is not good for our self esteem if we cheapen the connection we make with another person by moving right away to an act that would be better off saved for a later date. Sex is more than just two people going through the motions. Having sex so quickly can leave emotional scars on both men and women.
3. You will never know if this could have been a meaningful relationship. By having sexual relations with someone after the first date you have most likely ruined your chances of ever bringing the relationship to the next level. A huge part of dating is getting to know a person on many different levels. That is also the fun of the romance in a relationship. You have a chance to see another person in different situations, with friends and family, and during both good and bad times. As you date over a longer period of time you will know more about their likes and dislikes and both of you will grow as human beings. When you both finally decide to move the relationship to a sexual one, whether that takes weeks, months, or even longer, it will feel like the right thing to do for both of you.

When you meet someone for the first time that you are attracted to, don"t be afraid to take your time in getting to know them. This could be the person you would like to spend your life with, but you will never know if you have sex with them right away.